“i Don’t Get It” is No Excuse – Facebook, Linked-in, Twitter, Myspace, Plaxo

Lock-in causes us to keep moving in the same direction, to continue behaving the same way, even when competition and market shifts makes it a surety that the direction we're heading will produce poorer returns.  Blacksmiths who ignore the shift to automobiles.  Printers who ignore the shift to photocopiers.  As I often point out, unless something attacks the Lock-in, we are amazingly able to keep right on going the same direction – blithely ignoring the inevitable problems.

"I read Playboy for the articles" is a Harvard Business School Working Knowledge article which outlines just how far we all will go to avoid dealing with internal conflicts caused by undertaking behavior we know is unjustifiable. (Download full pdf text of White Paper here.)  According to the article:

  • Because people do not want to be perceived as (or feel) unethical or
    immoral, they make excuses for their behavior—even to
    themselves.
  • People cope with their own questionable actions in a number of ways by rationalizing, justifying, and
    forgetting—a remarkable range of strategies allowing them to maintain a
    clear conscience even under dubious circumstances.

Which leads me to the #1 excuse I hear.  "I don't get it."  I bring up to people – especially those who are over 35 – the power of modern technology tools.  For example, ask a 40 year old why two 20 year old girls sitting across a table will text each other and the answer is "I don't get it."  Tell them you know teenagers who spend more time at the computer monitor on-line than watching TV and the answer is "I don't get it."  Hear someone say "my cell phone is more important than my car" and you hear "I don't get it.'  And the biggest one of all, tell this person they need to open up accounts and go everyday to Facebook, Linked-in, Twitter, MySpace and Plaxo and you hear "you're kidding – right?  Why anyone spends time on those – I don't get it." 

Every time I hear "I don't get it" I wince.  Because that person just admitted "I'm willing to get out of step with the market, and risk having my skills become obsolete.  I'm happy doing what I do, and I don't see why I need to doing something new and different.  I'm sure the world is not evolving away from me, and I've chosen to remain Locked-in to where I've been rather than learn what's going on with these new solutions."  See what I mean?  When you read my interpretation makes you wince, doesn't it?

Our parents used to tell us when we talked on the telephone "Why don't you just go to their house, I don't get it." When we listened to rock-and-roll "Your music makes no sense, I don't get it."  When we thought everybody needed a car they'd say "We always walked, why do you need a car?  I don't get it." 

"I don't get it" is the proverbial excuse justifying Lock-in.  It allows us to walk away from a shift that's right in front of us, and remain stuck.  It allows us to feel like we're OK to remain – well — ignorant

So, the next time you hear yourself saying "I don't get it" it's time to stop, Disrupt yourself, and find some time to get it.  It's time to review your willingness to remain Locked-in, and invest some resources in trying new stuff instead of Defending & Extending.  Because if you do create some White Space you can learn – and the first who "get it" will be the ones who do best in the market, getting the best results.

 

PART 2 – a personal extension for those with time to read.

When my son died last week, at age 21, he left a brother age 20 and a brother age 18.  He also left hundreds of friends his own age.  These people shared what all of us shared at that age – a deep desire to talk to each other, to communicate, to cry in groups, to grieve, to find things in the past that made them happy.  To capture time in a bottle by reflecting on Alex's life.  And they also shared the simple fact that they have almost no money, precious little time, and a host of responsibilities to school, family and work.

30 years ago my generation would have made a few phone calls.  Maybe a few of us gotten together for an hour.  But our talks would have been mostly a small group, and for a short time.

The last week I've been living on Facebook, Linked-in, Twitter, et.al.  I have used all these tools for at least several months, and in some cases years.  But I used these through the filters of my history.  I saw them as extensions (D&E) of old ways I communicated.  Finally, now, I get it.  These communities are an entirely different way of communicating.  I different way of building a community.  And in many ways, it is MORE vibrant and more honest than anything ever before.  LIkewise, it is real time.  And it is open to everyone. It is extraordinarily effective.  And it is unbelievably healthy.

For those who question their child's life on-line, you are looking from your historical reference.  What happens in this environment is incredibly open – thus very informative.  It is remarkably honest – in ways everyone finds very hard to be face-to-face.  And it is very fast.  There are no boundaries – no race, no origin questions, no location questions, no income questions.  It is the most egalitarian, comprehensive method of creating a self-forming community to accomplish a goal I've ever seen.  Way beyond anything I've ever seen my generation accomplish by developing plans and subsequently focusing on execution. 

Within hours, my son's friends found out he had died 500 miles away – and his Facebook page exploded.  It became a central hub to exchange information of all kinds about his accident, his life, his funeral.  Within hours almost his entire world new what happened – far faster than any "family call chains" we ever created.  As they searched to learn more, within a day someone found a video of the accident scene and the helicopter whisking him away —- something that would have taken my generation weeks to find (if at all) and share.  And the videographer was put in contact with me, able to give me first-hand info about the accident scene. 

His brother created a new Facebook site dedicated to honoring Alex the next day.  Within hours 200 people were hooked up.  Before week end the number went to 400.  This became universe central for this topic.  There was no CEO.  No Director of communications.  Just a self-organizing activity that brought together hundreds of people who wanted to talk about Alex.  Very effective discussion.

Since Alex's 22nd birthday is 9/30 – some spontenous person said a birthday party should be thrown.  Within hours an event had been created, and hundreds were talking about whether they could attend or not (by the way, it's going to be on 10/2 in Chicago.)  All kinds of talk about who had to work, who could come, what to bring.  Again, self-organizing and spontaneous and remarkably effective.

By the time the newspaper published an article on the accident, and my son's obituary, it was so old news I don't think anybody cared.  And certainly the only people who learned this way were those who were – over 40. 

If you aren't using these tools – if you don't "get it" – this is one place I would recommend some personal White Space investment.  If you do, the payoff is extremely high.  If you don't, you're likely to find yourself as out of date as cobblers and blacksmiths faster than you think.